Keeping Your Promises

29 Sep

e4Do you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism more times than not? If so, are the criticisms you receive often similar in content or subject matter? If you answered ‘yes’ to both questions, you may be unknowingly (or knowingly) inviting criticism!

One type of person that habitually sets themselves up for criticism is the Agreement Breaker. Think to yourself – how effective are you at keeping your promises to others? Whenever you don’t keep your promises – whether it’s returning a borrowed item when you promised to, responding to someone’s email, or providing information to a co-worker – then you are opening yourself up to criticism.

Interestingly, there are some people I know who are good at upholding their commitments to others but not to themselves. They are routinely breaking their own agreements – failing to exercise, eating the wrong foods, not going to the dentist, etc. When agreements to yourself are broken, you are now making yourself vulnerable to another type of criticism – self-criticism.

The easiest way to minimize criticism and reduce stress in your life is to make a commitment to keep your agreements! Then others can count on you…and you can count on yourself!

Deb Bright, Ed.D., is founder and president of Bright Enterprises, Inc., a consulting firm devoted to enhancing performance. Her roster of clients includes Raytheon, Marriott, Disney, GE, Chase, Morgan Stanley, and other premier organizations. She is also a best-selling author. Her newest book, entitled The Truth Doesn’t Have to Hurt: How to Use Criticism to Strengthen Relationships, Improve Performance, and Promote Change (AMACOM Books) is due out this October. To learn more about Deb, please visit her website at

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